All along, I have put others before me. I've always been too considerate of other people's ideas, and even hated debates because I didn't want to conflict with others and ruin relationships with others. Therefore, people around me always say that I am considerate and super nice.
However, being a people-pleaser like I've always been doing sometimes makes me tired. For example, when I go out with my friends, I always think about which restaurant they want to go to first, even if I want to go to another one. Therefore, I can't go to a restaurant that I've always wanted to go to because I'm thinking about other people's ideas. It's as if it's my responsibility to satisfy others and make them feel comfortable, even if it means I have to compromise myself.
I realized that I needed to change this way of thinking. So, I gradually tried to put myself first. I tried to focus more on the expression of my opinions in every discussion than on the harmony of relationships, and more on my own preferences rather than on bearing with others. Little by little, I found much more comfortable dealing with life along with difficult social situations. In fact, my relationships were not affected in any way. XD
So, what I want to say is that we should always put ourselves first by prioritizing our own opinions rather than others'. Sometimes, a little "selfishness" leads to more happiness.